Back to School: Everything You Need to Know About Recruitment
Welcome to girl world. Dresses, heels, lipstick. Perfection. Recruitment can be scary, especially if you don't know what to expect. Or, it can be one of the greatest experiences of your life. So put on some lipstick, arm yourself with knowledge, and get ready to kill it with this everything you need to know list. And, I've partnered up with A Dash of Class, who tells you everything you need to know about what to wear here! She is great, the cutest, and she's in a different sorority than I am so that you're getting an all around perspective! Make sure to give her a subscribe and follow along on her Instagram here, you won't regret it!
- PNM: This is you. PNM stands for potential new member.
- Rho Gamma: Your new mom. Lifeline. Shoulder to cry on. Basically your Rho Gamma is your group leader. She's an older girl in a sorority that is there to answer all your questions and hold your hand through recruitment.
- Bid: What you're dying for your favorite house to give you. It's an invitation to become a member.
- Suicide: If by the day before bid day a girl has one house she loves and one she can't see herself in at all, she might decide to suicide. This means that instead of ranking both houses, she only ranks the one that she wants. But, she is taking a chance. She might not get a bid from that house. So, usually this is advised against.
- Pledge: Once you've accepted a bid, you have pledged yourself to a certain sorority. Hence, you are a pledge.
These differ slightly by school, but the general aspects and ideas are usually the same. First, Welcome Round. Here you will visit all the houses and talk to two to three girls for a short period of time each. This round is intended to give you a broad overview of what each house is like. I'll clue you in to what you'll talk about later. After you've seen all the houses, you'll rank your favorites. Next is Welcome Back. You'll spend a little more time with the girls this round, and get a better feel for who they are and what they stand for. They'll be doing the same with you. Once again, you'll rank your favorites. Then it's time for Philanthropy. Here, you'll watch a short video about the foundation or cause that each sorority supports. Then you'll talk to the girls about what events they do to fundraise, what the cause means to them, and any other questions you have. Sisterhood is next. Get ready for the famous (infamous?) sorority video with lots of hand signs and lots of smiles. Honestly they're so cute. Anyway. Here you'll learn what the girls like to do together and what kind of bond they all have because this round is all about how the sisterhood they are a part of lifts them up and makes them better people. And then, the round everyone is dying to make it to with their favorite houses still on their lists. Preference Round. Here you'll witness a ceremony, hear stories from older girls, and really learn the values of your last one or two houses. And finally, bid day. You'll open your card and pray that the house you want is waiting inside. You'll finally be home.
What should you be prepared to talk about during recruitment? Well, yourself, of course. You'll be asked about your major, your involvements, what you did over the summer, etc. Pretend you're interviewing for your favorite job, and don't hesitate to talk yourself up. We want to know how great you are! And remember, a cute outfit only gets you so far. Let your personality shine through and show us what a great addition you'd make to our sisterhood!
What NOT to Talk About
Don't talk about how great your boyfriend is. Or how much your ex sucks. It's not relevant. Don't talk about alcohol, or ask us how much we party. It's inappropriate. Overall, just don't say anything you wouldn't say during a job interview. Be polite. Be classy. And stay away from the five B's: boys, booze, bible, ballot and bids.
During recruitment, everyone will tell you over and over that you'll "just know." It sounds silly. Until recruitment starts. The moment I walked into Theta, I knew. When you find your home, you'll know too. I promise. But, here's what you should be looking for.
- Your values match up. If you haven't quite gotten a feel for what kind of values a house has, ask the girl you're talking to! But, usually this will come through in conversation.
- What kind of questions do the girls ask you? Are they asking about your major and involvements? Or are they asking you what kind of mascara you're wearing? Think about what kind of questions you would ask if you were them. Are they asking those kinds of questions?
- Your interests match up. Of course, this probably won't happen exactly with the girl you're talking to. It might! But, more often, if you express an interest that that girl doesn't have but other girls do, she'll tell you about them! When I was at Theta, every interest I had was matched with an "oh so and so does that too! She'd be a great resource for you!"
- You're excited every time you walk in.
- You feel like you could really be friends with the girls you've talked to.
What Should I Wear?
Recruitment is very formal, so always make sure you're looking nice. I would always aim for simple. For some more specific tips, check out this post by A Dash of Class! She looks cute every day so don't you worry, she's an incredible resource for all your recruitment clothing needs! And don't forget to browse the rest of her blog!
What Should I NOT Wear?
Don't show too much skin. Don't wear an excessive amount of make up. No obnoxiously high heels. Pretend you're going to a work outing. If you wouldn't want your boss seeing you in it, it's probably not a good choice for recruitment.